A Stress-Free Intimate Backyard Wedding in California

  • By Jen Hart
  • Bohemian Brides, Real Weddings
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Our featured bride is Emily, in his vows, her husband described the reason for knowing she was the one “because of her general dissatisfaction to accept the status quo”. What a compliment! They married in a laid-back ceremony at her parent’s house with 85 guests and had the most stress-free day. We loved that everyone walked down the aisle while being barefoot. Yayyyyy, for backyard weddings! We are big fans. Emily’s advice to brides-to-be is to hire a day-of coordinator. We’ve heard that from other brides, and here at Dreamers & Lovers, we are fully behind the idea. If there is someone or something that will make your life easier and will make you be fully present on your big day, just do it. As for the dress, she chose the Nellia because she wanted comfort, and loved that she felt like a woman wearing it. Yessssssssss.

From Emily:

I felt so happy and beautiful in my dress! Not to mention comfortable! Thank you to everyone who made my dress possible with such care!

Bride Emily in California in Backyard Wedding Ideas

Read on for more of Emily’s love story and bridal wisdom:

 How they met:

We met online!

Was there a time in your relationship where your love faced adversity, and you thought it wouldn’t work out? How did you repair this?

I don’t know if there was ever a time we thought it wasn’t going to work out, but there have definitely been times we feel/felt tested. In these times we have each had to grow and learn how to be better partners for each other.  We also recently found out I can’t have children and while it has been trying, it has also been very uniting and a testament to our strength together as a couple. We feel we can tackle almost anything together now!

How she found her wedding dress:

I actually worked very close to your first shop in Torrance and would drive by it on my way to work. Sometimes the door would be open and I could see the dresses and thought they were so beautiful. Then a co-worker told me she got her dress there and I knew I had to go. It was the first shop I went to. I tried on maybe 4-5 dresses. I fell in love with the Nellia immediately. I went to a few more shops, but could not stop thinking about it. I remember telling my mom I felt like a woman when I wore it. So we went back and that was that!


What readings, if any, did you have at your ceremony?

My cousin read the poem “Wild Geese” by Mary Oliver. It is one of our favorite poems and something we return to often in times of stress or struggle.

Did you write your own vows? If so, what was your favorite phrase, verse or line?

We did write our own vows. I loved my husband’s vows. There are two lines I always think about. One he said he fell in love with me because of my general dissatisfaction to accept the status quo and that relationships are process and progress and that I will always have someone to process and progress with.

He says his favorite part from me was that the two of us make a family and we will always be a family no matter how our family looks or is made.

What is the one detail or vendor that you were so happy to have as a part of your wedding?

I loved so much about our wedding day! We honestly had the best team of vendors I could have asked for. It was such a stress-free day because we had such an amazing team!

What advice do you have for other future-brides currently planning a wedding?

Hire a day-of coordinator! You won’t regret it.

Tell us all about the proposal:

We were on a road trip from Redondo Beach to Washington. Our second stop was the Redwoods. We were on a hike in the Redwoods and he told me to look up at the trees and then to look down and when I looked down he had out an engagement ring. It was amazing. We were all by ourselves surrounded by the Redwoods.

How many guests did you have:

We had a family ceremony at my parent’s house with 85 people and then a larger reception with 175.

Describe your wedding cake or dessert:

We had custom made cookies and Pan Dulce.

Her favorite detail of the wedding:

I loved that we had the ceremony in my parent’s house in the backyard I grew up playing in. I also loved the flowers, my dress, and that everyone walked barefoot down the aisle.

Their next chapter as husband and wife:

Just continuing to enjoy life together. We plan on taking more bike rides on the strand, traveling, camping, climbing, exploring, and eventually figuring out how to start a family someday.

The couple in California after their backyard wedding

The wedding flowers:

My flowers were designed by Gingersnap Florals. They were succulent, earth tone, with soft pops of color, inspired!